Amid disaster, Japan's societal mores remain stron

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Amid disaster, Japan's societal mores remain strong
Tokyo (CNN) -- I've been asked questions along this theme multiple times, from my friends and family in the United States to colleagues who work around the globe: How, amid Japan's worst natural disaster in 100 years, can the Japanese seem so calm?
Food and water are both scarce. Electricity in the tsunami zone is nearly nonexistent. Survivors have lacked information about their missing loved ones.
But unlike other disasters where the world has observed looting,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], rioting and public outbursts of sorrow and rage,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it has seen a country quietly mourning, its people standing patiently for hours in orderly lines for a few bottles of water.
This is surprising only if you've never lived here or experienced how Japan's society operates. As a resident of Japan for three years, I would have been surprised if this country's people behaved in any other manner.
Across Sendai's tsunami zone, both in the areas devastated and in the neighboring regions, you can see that Japan's societal mores have failed to break down, even if the tsunami destroyed the physical structure of this coastal community.
At stores across the city, long, straight lines of Japanese tsunami victims have been waiting for rations in the city. No one is directing these lines; they're organized by the people themselves.
At the front, which takes hours to get to in some cases, shoppers are limited to 10 food or beverage items. No complaints, no cheating.
No one should complain, says Mitsugu Miyagi, standing in line at a store with his infant, 6-year-old and wife, Maki.
When asked what happens if the city does run out of bottled water supplies, Maki states simply,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "What can we do?"
Military and emergency efforts have been focused on the tsunami-ravaged regions or at the nuclear plant in Fukushima.
When it comes to relief, volunteer agencies and impromptu community groups have organized shelters and food distribution.
At the Monterey Hotel in Sendai, two chefs dressed in their signature hats from the hotel restaurant spooned out hot soup for breakfast. All passers-by were invited to eat. For many, it was their first hot soup since the tsunami.
But what's notable is that the people who lined up for the soup took only one cup. They didn't get back in line for a second cup; that wouldn't be fair.
Even among the newly homeless from the tsunami, there is a sense of civility and community that creates pause among international onlookers.
Shichigo Elementary School in Sendai is now home to hundreds of tsunami victims. In a third-floor classroom, families have self-organized themselves on cardboard boxes and blankets. No one family has a larger space than the other, just as you see at any average family festival. Shoes are not allowed on the blankets in order to maintain sanitary conditions. Food is shared as equally as possible, even if one person eats or drinks a little less in order for everyone to have some sustenance.
Voices, other than the laughter or cries of children, remain subdued and calm.
Japan's Emperor Akihito, in an unprecedented address to his citizens, pointed out that the international community has been "impressed" with the Japanese victims.
"These world leaders also say their citizens are impressed with how calm the Japanese people have remained,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], how they are helping each other and how organized they are. I think it is important that we share the difficult days and overcome this disaster," the emperor said.
Returning to the "how" question I've been asked by my international friends and colleagues, the answer comes down to national character, says Temple University's Jeffrey Kingston. Kingston is a scholar of Japan and has lived in the country since 1987.
Kingston calls the behavior of the Japanese "remarkable but not surprising."
"The Japanese, from a young age, are socialized to put group interest ahead of individual interest. Many criticize them for deference to authority, abundant rules and conformity, but this is the fabric of social cohesion that keeps Japan together,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]," Kingston said.
Kingston notes that Japan has been struck by disaster since its creation, and it's accustomed to dealing with disaster. The survival strategy, argues Kingston, has been to rely on the group.
I know what Kingston is talking about. The social uniformity and obsession with rules has often driven me, the Westerner, to the brink of frustration. I have difficulty comprehending how Japanese children are taught this in school: The nail that sticks out of the board has to be hammered down. Interpretation: You don't want to stick out, either as a failure or as a huge success, or display your emotions in an undignified manner. You simply want to be like everyone else.
Sometimes, to foreigners, Japan's societal rules seems orderly and conformist to a fault. But no one can argue that in this disaster it is a tremendous benefit. I only need to think about my own home country dealing with triple disasters in the space of a few days to understand how Japan's society has characteristics that simply don't exist in any other large country.
It would be a mistake, however, to say the self-control of the Japanese means they are stoic in the face of this historic disaster.
Mari Sato is hurting, but as a Japanese woman,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], she is doing her best to be reserved and dignified, prized by society as admirable qualities.
Sato lived about two miles from the Sendai shore in a house neighbors easily recognized because of its signature pink roof. Three days after the tsunami, the newspaper ran before-and-after satellite images of her Sendai neighborhood. In the after picture, she says, there's only crushed brown rubble.
"The pink roof," Sato said, and began to quietly cry. Sato shook her head as she pointed to the bare section in the picture. "I never imagined a tsunami could do this."
Sato's tears fell down her face, dropping onto the newspaper revealing the devastation to her home. Sato apologized for her emotional display.
The Japanese victim hurts like any disaster victim in the world, but as she or he has been raised prefers to mourn as quietly and privately as possible.