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3. Let your child clean up after meals and allow him/her to occasionally prepare his/her meal
How to Foster Independence
10. Encourage your teen to get a job that will not interfere with school performance
5. Let your child control his/her homework schedule but monitor the school progress and grades and step in when and if necessary
2. Ask your teen to call and schedule his/her appointments or to order the pizza
1. When going out to eat, ask your young teen to order his/her food
7. Allow your teen to feel stuck when making a decision but be there to offer support and advice
4. Let your teen prepare his/her own lunch and pack his/her school bag
6. Let your child make his/her decisions regarding social issues but be the first to provide support and advice
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8. Allow your child to chose his/her own dress and hair style
This need for early independence is designed to prepare individuals for adulthood.
Allowing your child to become independent earlier in life can minimize rebellion during the later stages of the teen years. All teens have a need to express their individuality. Teens that are suppressed and are not allowed to express their individuality are more likely to revolt.
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11. Allow your teen to negotiate his/her punishment and consequence plan; this puts the ball back into his/her court so s/he can choose how to behave knowing what the consequences will be
9. Let your child earn some of the money you give instead of just handing it to him/her
A big part of building independence is allowing your young teen to do things for him/herself, make his/her own decisions, and make his/her own mistakes. These are natural processes in life and people are wired to desire autonomy early in life.
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12. Allow your teen to make mistakes but let him/her know it’s a normal part of learning. There is nothing to feel bad about
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